"Choosing a Christian Partner: Don’t Discount the Social Versus Stay-at-Home Scale"

"For Christian singles, finding someone with shared values, beliefs, and morals is of the utmost importance. And seeking a potential partner who possesses traits like kindness, compassion, loyalty, and honesty should definitely sit front and center.

But right beneath these must-haves lies a similarity that is often overlooked…but that ends up causing endless arguments for many couples. This is what I call the “social versus stay-at-home scale.” At one end, you’ve got what I term the “happy homebodies.” These are the people who are most content renting a DVD, cuddling up with a good book, or making a meal at home with their significant other. When they do head out of the house, they prefer an early, quiet meal for two, followed by a swift return to their sanctuary…home.

At the other end of the spectrum, you have the “always actives.” These are the people who dislike hibernating at home, as they feel the world is passing them by. While they love spending time with their significant others equally as much, they’d prefer to experience things together…and probably in the company of others as well; they like parties, church events, and all sorts of social outings. And while certain stages of life—for example, the years when they have small children at home—may affect their ability to go out temporarily, as soon as it’s feasible, they’re looking to quickly resume their social schedules, even if they now consist of more kid-friendly choices.

Psychologically speaking: Relation to the introvert and extrovert personality types

Not to start psycho babbling on you here, but I feel it’s worth mentioning the connection (and differences) between a theory many of us have heard of: Jung’s theory of Psychological (or personality) Types.

To give a bit of back-story, Carl Jung was the famous Swiss psychiatrist who conceptualized what we know today as the theory of personality types. In this, he identifies four sets of personality traits, of which the most notable is that of the introvert and extrovert. According to the Jungian-based website www.socionics.com, extroverts and introverts are described as follows:

Extroverts are directed towards the objective world whereas Introverts are directed towards the subjective world. The most common differences between Extroverts and Introverts are shown below:"

Extroverts

• are interested in what is happening around them
• are open and often talkative
• compare their own opinions with the opinions of others
• like action and initiative
• easily make new friends or adapt to a new group
• say what they think
• are interested in new people
• easily break unwanted relations

Introverts

• are interested in their own thoughts and feelings
• need to have own territory
• often appear reserved, quiet and thoughtful
• usually do not have many friends
• have difficulties in making new contacts
• like concentration and quiet
• do not like unexpected visits and therefore do not make them
• work well alone
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