Your man’s never-endingly negative about the economic recession—how can you put the positive back into your lives?

Hey everyone for the next few weeks I will be sharing with you "Regina Get's Real" topics and articles from www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com."Dilemma

My man is taking the economy really hard because he works construction and things have been really slow. My job is stable so we have been okay with money. The problem is that he is always complaining and worrying about what will happen if things don’t pick up. It’s starting to make us fight because I am trying to be positive and happy for the Lord’s blessings but I don’t know how to make him see that things will be alright if we just have faith.

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While the recession is on everyone’s mind, it is definitely hitting some harder than others. The reason for this is twofold: First of all, how close a person is to the problem will affect their attitude. For example, your boyfriend is in an industry that is significantly impacted by the housing market. Since much of the problem began with home loans, lenders are now less than lenient. This means the number of people who can afford to buy, build, or add on is seriously stifled, and this directly affects construction revenue. Furthermore, the fact that your man is probably paid only when there is a project means he’s going to notice the current downturn more than someone like yourself, a salaried employee.

The bad news is that this first factor isn’t easily resolved by a positive attitude. However, the second aspect that affects a person’s view of the current climate can be morphed by mere mindset. This is the strength of their faith and optimism.

As Christians, we pride ourselves on our faith. But it’s all too easy to spout on about the strength of our beliefs when things are good. The true test of our faith, however, is when things aren’t petering along so perfectly. Like, say, during an economic recession. This is the time when we must put our tough talk into action—or in this case into attitude—and use it to keep negativism to a minimum.

But how exactly can we mold our mindset into a more positive one? How can we keep the faith of Christians without acting totally out of touch with reality? And, as in your case, how can we keep the current financial situation from breaking the bond between our loved ones and ourselves?

Tips for staying sane and spiritually centered during a downturn

Keep panic in perspective
Although the recession is very real, it’s important to remember that what we hear on the news are always the worst-case scenarios. And while they are true tales, they don’t mean you will meet the same fate. In your situation, this means pointing out to your boyfriend that the two of you are plodding along just fine…and that things will look up.

Take this opportunity to learn how to manage your money
While I just said not to panic, I’m not saying you should turn a blind eye to finances either. In fact, now is a terrific time to better your management of money. Are you properly prepared for the future? How would you handle things should the recession become extended? Are you aware of simple (and spiritual) solutions to achieve financial security and live the life God intended for you?

There are some wonderful resources that give Christians practical, positive information on directing their focus towards prosperity. (One that I consider a must-read is Vow of Prosperity by Bishop Noel Jones and Scott Chaplan, which"
To read more tips visit www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com and share you thoughts. I want to wish everyone a happy, blessed and prosperous new year!!!!!!!!

"Readying Yourself for Romance Part I: The Physical Preparation"

I wanted to share this great information with everyone this is very inportant."Maybe you’ve recently ended a long-term relationship. Or maybe you’ve been single for quite some time. Either way, when you’ve been out of the dating scene for an extended period, it can be intimidating to put yourself back out there and look for love.

Some of our fear comes from the unknown about the dating scene. But a lot of our concern comes from insecurity about ourselves: “How do I approach a potential date?” “How do I act on a date?” and “How should I look and prepare myself physically to start dating?”

As a Christian, this latter issue, that of attending to your physical appearance, might seem like it should be low on your priority list. But it shouldn’t. The reason is that, while objectively, how you look isn’t your most important aspect, how you feel about how you look is critical. If you feel attractive and desirable to the opposite sex, you will carry yourself with confidence. And confidence is a key component in attracting others.

When it comes to physical preparation, there are two elements: how you ready yourself to start dating in general and how you prepare yourself for an actual date. Because, again, looking your best is an advantage in initially attracting a mate; but more significantly, feeling secure with your appearance affects your attitude and actions. It draws others in like a magnet…and is much more powerful than whether or not you were born beautiful." To read complete article go to www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com

I wanted to wish everyone a blessed and wonderful holiday.

FaithMate's 4th American Express winner shares his experience on FaithMate....

"I consider myself one who loves the Lord and do so by obeying his commandments to the best of my ability, through faith and repentence, and believing in the forgiveness of Christ. I actually came across faithmate.com after trying to find a conference nearby, where Dr. Noel Jones would be speaking. Once I came upon his website, I noticed fatemate.com. I noticed that it was a dating website for Christians, yet this was not my focus when I became a member. I thought that it would be a great resource to help educate me; where I once lacked in area of relationships. By comunicating with the Body of Christ I believed the possiblity for getting what information I'd needed concerning dating and relationships.

My experience on faithmate.com overall has been a wonderful experience. I understand that we do not live in a perfect world nor will the Body of Christ be perfected until Christ's announces it's perfection through him. With the negative experiences I've had, I've tried to viewed them in the light of God. We are not all at the same level of maturity and in the devolopment of our divine fruitfulness. So if I consider myself mature than some than I choose to allow the Love of God to come forth in ways that will build and edify the believer.

I appreciate the gift and I appreciate the opportunity and previlege of being a member of faithmate.com... May God continue to show his favor, grace and mercy upon this ministry and on all those who visits. God bless Dr. Jones, his family, the church members, and the entire Body of Christ....Happy Holidays!"


Sincerely,
Gregory Jenkins
The Spirit of the Lord is Upon me.........

"BISHOP NOEL JONES ON INSPIRATION NETWORK: New show ‘Fresh Oil’ added to the rapidly growing television network."

This is great news I want to congratulate Bishop Noel Jones on his new venture. Here is the complete article from www.eurweb.com."The Inspiration Network, one of the fastest-growing inspirational networks in the U.S. announced that international ministry leader Bishop Noel Jones has been added to the lineup.

Bishop Jones' “Fresh Oil” broadcasts feature the unique preaching and teaching style that has made him a trusted source for spiritual guidance to millions across the world. His program will air on INSP on Fridays at 6:30 a.m. EST.


“Adding Bishop Noel Jones to INSP's lineup is a great programming addition for our cable and satellite viewers,” said Marc Favaro, senior vice president of network sales for INSP's parent company The Inspiration Networks. "He is one of the most respected ministry leaders of our time and has amassed a solid following not only in the U.S., but internationally as well. I'm sure that our viewers will benefit from the wealth of knowledge and insight he delivers each week.”


Bishop Jones pastors the City of Refuge Church in Gardena, CA (near Los Angeles). Since his installment as pastor in June 1994, the membership has grown from approximately 3,300 people to over 17,000. The organization is actively involved in serving the community, with outreach efforts that include rehabilitative programs, ministries for the deaf, and programs for artists, singles, the incarcerated, youth, and young adults.


His intellectual, scriptural approach and intense oratorical style impacts people from all walks of life and has encouraged the faith of people across the globe from Seattle to Miami, from London to Africa. Many hail his method as being practical, yet powerful while also penetrating the hardest of hearts, captivating the attention of the restless and convincing the confused that God is able to save anybody.


Jones serves as a columnist for one of the nation's premier Gospel publications, Gospel Today Magazine, and also is a frequent guest on a number of shows and has appeared as a panelist on both CNN and NPR. His many achievements include being honored by the Mayor of Syracuse, New York for aiding in the establishment of a city-wide Crusade Day, a multi-cultural, non-denominational conference encouraging the participation of all Syracuse and Central New York residents."


For more information about Bishop Noel Jones visit www.noeljones.org.

I am so pleased....

I am so pleased that FaithMate has been a blessing to many people. In the last few weeks I have told you about Denise and Robert - they met on FaithMate and within a short period of time Robert asked Denise to marry him. For all of you who have read our “Success Story” (link), you know how truly touching this story is – and you should share it with someone – share the love that’s in the world all around us.
Nyesha also emailed me and shared her wonderful story of how her and her fiancee met on FaithMate
…And last but not least Erin and her husband Renauld have shared their wonderful story of love with us, and are getting ready to write the next chapter - - Erin congrats with the new baby on the way.
Congratulations to you all and thank you for sharing your stories with me. I pray that God continues to bless your relationships!
And please keep on sharing stories like these with us at Faithmate. I know this is an online community, but behind the technology are real people who really care that Faithmate helps you fulfill your destinies.

FaithMate's Third Amex Winner Honored her thoughts on being single and dating...

"I am sure there are some
phenomenal guys out there, but they are just hard to come across,
which leads me to my next statement.

Dating has been/is difficult for me because the men I have encountered
have the following downsides:

*a lack of sincerity.
*have trouble communicating effectively.
*are not comfortable in their own skin.
*are not financially stable and come with a plethora of issues.
*cannot deal with an independent woman.

Where are the brothers that are about their business, as I am"?

Long-Distance Dating Part I: Should You Do It?

Long-Distance Dating Part I: Should You Do It? By Nicolle Williams

"Online dating has literally exploded in popularity. In one study from Jupiter Research*, by 2008 online dating will hit $642 million in revenue, which means the way singles meet, mingle, get to know one another, date, and form relationships has changed. One of the many significant implications has been a rise in long-distance dating.

If you think about it, it makes sense: With the whole world of singles at the click of a mouse and communication channels like e-mail and IM all but free, it’s more likely than ever for us to form a romantic relationship with someone outside our immediate area. And while some singles stick safely to the “within 25 miles” screen, my feeling is that we shouldn’t limit ourselves. Especially as Christians, who are not looking to settle for anything less than our true, spiritually-centered soul mate, speaking simply in terms of numbers, it’s wise to expand our search to include the possibility of long-distance love".Read more at www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com

How to Handle Claims of Hardship: Keeping Your Heart and Your Wallet Safe from Scams

"The Bible teaches us to be compassionate, kind, and giving toward our fellow man: As Christians, we pride ourselves on being generous, on helping out those less fortunate, and on keeping an open, nonjudgmental attitude toward others.

Unfortunately, this compassion can also make us easy targets for scam artists looking to profit from our kind character; the anonymous nature of the Internet makes all online sites potential places to prowl for prey" Read the rest on www.blackchristiandating.com tell me what you think.

Lies Women Like to Believe: The Downside of Dialing His Digits

This is very interesting this topic comes from www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com "This lie is a doozy of desperation that comes in many unfortunate forms; and all have to do with women telling ourselves that it’s okay—or even necessary or beneficial—for us to call men during the initial stages of meeting and courtship:
• He’ll respect my confidence in calling to make the first move".Read more at www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com share your thoughts.....

Making the First Move: Women CAN Avoid a Missed Opportunity and Still Let Men Lead the Way

This is a GREAT topic to talk about. In my opinion, women can make the first move without being obvious. For example, just by giving eye contact or smiling is letting him know there is interest. From personal experience, just by doing that, I gave the man the opportunity to come and talk to me without me having to walk over and talk to him. I think being online is similar. On FaithMate you have the opportunity to search and find different men you are interested in. Sending a smile is initiating conversation, and showing interest in a subtle way. And that gives the man the opportunity to “make the first move” and still lead the way….Share your thoughts……..

Dating Dos and Don’ts: Conversation Keys and Killers for the First Few Dates

Hey everyone I wanted to introduce you to www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com there is great advice on being single, dating, and life issues. Here is a little piece of what is on the site and what it's all about. "Since we can’t do too much to affect whether someone feels physically attracted to us, and behavior is a whole separate discussion—or rather many discussions—today I will explore guidelines to help us stop sabotaging ourselves with unappealing and/or inappropriate conversation; because, in my opinion, taking an honest look at how we come across conversationally is one of the best ways to beat rejection" read the rest at www.blackchristiandatingadvice.com

Thoughts on dating.....

Nekia FaithMate's 1st Amex winner.......

Dating in this day in age can be scary. However, I am often reminded that God is with us and He will
never leave us nor forsake us. Therefore, I make a serious effort to keep an open mind no matter what.
Whatever is good, think on these things it says in Phillipians. There are many
negative things to dwell on, be it past relationships or just the statistics. But God gives us hope and a plan.
I think about the courage and hope it takes to try again and love and to trust God.
Whenever I login to Faithmate.com, I'm saying I believe in hope. I wish everyone the hope to say open and
the courage to trust God.

Sincerely,
Nekia

Today’s topic is “You have to believe you have it”

Mark 11:24 (King James Version)
King James Version (KJV)
Public Domain

24Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
I truly believe when you seek God in what you desire and what you want in your life, and really believe His will be done no matter how long it takes, it will come to pass. So if anyone is having a hard time being single or feeling alone out there, meditate on this scripture. Share your thoughts 

Hello everyone,
Remember last week when I told you that “glad2bm3” wrote the best blog response and won $25? Well, (this is amazing!) I am pleased to announce that “glad2bm3” wanted me to put the $25 gift card to our next winner! This means that instead of winning a $25 dollar gift card (pretty good), this week’s winner will be a $50 dollar gift card (really good)- - whoo hoo!
(So you all better be hitting “reply” soon…)

The winner for the $25 gift card is...

glad2bm3 Congratulations!!!!! Email Ayesha at ayesha@faithmate.com to receive your prize.

We have TWO WINNERS!!!!!

Spread the word everyone: tomorrow morning (September 12), I will be announcing the winner of first $200 Amex gift card winner for September right here on my blog. So check here to see if you got it.
And remember, we’re doing this three more times this month, and all paid members are automatically entered to win. Not bad, right?
Later in the day, I will also be announcing the winner of the $25 prize for the best comment on my blog. This is easy money, people – bring your best stuff!

“Watch Out For Fake Profiles”

Now you might read that headline and say Huh? A dating website telling me to watch out for dating websites? But think about it - I’m being real here. We have to use our God-given common sense. If a person you just met at a party tried to take you outside to talk, you wouldn’t go alone, would you? Or if they hit you up for money right away? Hello?! You have to use the same radar online.
So, when you try online dating and you’re communicating with someone online for the first time, make sure you do not give out your personal information until you feel comfortable – no personal email, address, telephone number, etc. My advice would be to set-up a separate email account and communicate from there. If a person asks you to set-up a Yahoo messenger account before really getting to know you, they might be trying to avoid having their conversations tracked (they’re wrong, of course, but don’t do it!) And when a person claims to have a hardship or are in need of money to support them or their family – don’t fall for that!
I read these stories on all sorts of websites, and you probably do, too. Be smart, take your time…__________________________
Here is a link to report fraud www.stop-scammers.com

How do you get to your second date?

Getting to the second date can be interesting LOL ;). My past experiences on first dates have been good for the most part:) he picks me up on time, looks great, smells good, has great conversation, doesn’t come on too strong, and if all goes well, there is an instant chemistry. I’d like to think that using common sense definitely gets you to the second date - taking the time to look good for yourself and your date, making sure you hair looks nice, dressing for the occasion, and being on time. But it doesn’t always work out, know what I mean? I would love for you to share your thoughts on the topic.

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Would you date someone that is not a Christian?

I find it challenging being a single Christian dating. You meet a guy you have great conversation go on your first date, and then he tell’s you he is not a Christian. I immediately feel disappointed and start to lose interest , then I start to ask myself should I even continue dating him? Should I invite him to church and maybe he will receive the holy spirit? Has anyone else experience this?